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90 Affirmations of Self Love: Phrases to Feel More Confident Today

Could repeating that you love yourself… actually make you love yourself?

That’s the main belief behind practicing affirmations.

Affirmations are positive short phrases you repeat as often as you’d like. The idea is that by saying something is true, you’ll program your mind to make it true.

On a more simple level, you may just become for familiar with a concept. For example, if you’re not used to loving yourself, repeating affirmations could help normalize it. While saying “I love myself” might be awkward at first, in time, it could help you grow more confident.

Although affirmations of self-love work for some people, they aren’t useful for everyone.

If you’re interested in trying affirmations on confidence and self-esteem, keep reading.

 

What Are Affirmations of Self Love?

Affirmations are short phrases used to inspire a positive change. People use affirmations for self-love, money, manifesting, and more. You can choose one affirmation or several.

Once you have your affirmation, you can repeat it with the goal of “programming” it into your mind. You can practice these statements in a number of ways:

  • Writing it repeatedly
  • Saying it out loud
  • Saying it in your head
  • Displaying it somewhere you pass by frequently, like a fridge, mirror, phone wallpaper, etc.

If the affirmation works, it should help you believe or achieve your goal. For example, when using affirmations of self-love, you may develop more self-esteem. If you’re using affirmations to attract money, hopefully, you will attract opportunities for some extra cash.

Some research has shown that affirmations can:

  • Change how the body physically responds to stress
  • Improve problem-solving skills in chronically stressed people
  • Impact stress, anxiety, and depression levels of cardiovascular patients

Affirmations are used as a spiritual tool to help you “manifest” a goal. They’re recommended by some self-help writers as a psychological trick. However, they’re not a replacement for any expert advice or care, such as a psychologist. You should also know that the research on affirmations is mixed. As we’ll discuss below, affirmations on confidence work for some people, but not everyone.

 

Do Affirmations of Self Love Work?

Although many people use affirmations, they don’t work for everyone. If you want to try them, evaluate whether they work for you. If they don’t, that’s a normal experience too.

In A Liberated Mind, psychology professor Steven Hayes explains that affirmations don’t work when we’re most desperate for them. For example, if we’re feeling bad about ourselves, a positive statement could feel so fake that it makes us feel worse. For these people, affirmations would have the opposite effect they intended. On the other hand, if you’re already feeling good about yourself, affirmations could make you feel even better.

This was shown to be the case in a 2009 study. People with high self-esteem felt better after self-statements, but only to a limited degree. However, the statements backfired for those with low self-esteem.

The lesson we can learn from this research is this: Use affirmations of self-love when you’re already feeling good about yourself. If you want to try anyway, try to at least choose affirmations on confidence that feel right and relatable to you. And, positive statements don’t make you feel better, it’s okay to stop using them.

If you’re struggling with self-esteem, you should know that there’s evidence-based solutions to help you. To get started, you may consider seeing a therapist or counselor, who can develop a plan for you. Research has also shown that self-compassion exercises and targeting negative self-talk can help you feel better about yourself and your life.

 

How to Use Affirmations on Confidence and Self Love

Before using affirmations, first decide if they’re even right for you. If you’re feeling really bad, it might be better to wait until you mood rises to use affirmations. As the research shows, affirmations can backfire when we’re already feeling bad about a topic. Instead, use these positive statements to amp up when you’re already feeling good.

Based on research, we also know that we should choose affirmations of self-love carefully. It’s better to choose statements that we believe in or at least somewhat believe in. If our positive statement seems too far out of reach, you might feel ridiculous saying it, and end up feeling worse.

Use the affirmations of self-love in the section below for ideas. You can also edit these affirmations so they suit you. You can choose one affirmation or a few.

Once you have your affirmations selected, repeat it as often as you’d like. That could be a few times a day or a few times a week. If you want to make it a habit, pair it with another activity. For example, perhaps you say your affirmations every day when you wake up.

 

Affirmations of Self Love

Customize these affirmations on confidence and self-love by editing or combining them.

  1. I love myself
  2. I’m really okay with myself
  3. I believe in myself
  4. I trust in my abilities
  5. I trust my intuition
  6. I have the ability to do great things
  7. My work is valuable
  8. My work makes a different
  9. I am smart
  10. I am capable of what comes my way
  11. I deserve to be here
  12. I am beautiful
  13. I am worthy of what I desire
  14. I am blessed
  15. I am enough
  16. I’m confident in my decisions
  17. Each day, I get better
  18. I am doing my best
  19. I am here to make a difference
  20. I am here because I’m supposed to be
  21. I should take up space
  22. If an old white man can, I definitely can
  23. I have something unique to contribute
  24. Life is a miracle
  25. I am grateful for my life
  26. I feel better about myself each day
  27. Asking for help is strength
  28. I know who I can trust
  29. My ideas are valuable
  30. I have so much to contribute
  31. I bring joy to the room
  32. I’m learning how to best share my talents
  33. I’m learning my best talents
  34. I’m learning to recognize my talents
  35. I’m so grateful for my talents
  36. I am in control
  37. I know when it’s safe/necessary to give up control
  38. I can cope with this
  39. I have a strong backbone
  40. There are so many possibilities for me
  41. I deserve happiness
  42. It’s safe to stand up for myself
  43. I completely accept myself
  44. I am at peace with myself
  45. I have compassion for myself
  46. I vow to talk to myself as a friend
  47. I am mindful of my self-talk
  48. I’m leaning into myself today
  49. I am powerful
  50. I have the power to create change
  51. I am brave
  52. I’m good at what I do
  53. I am courageous
  54. I deserve to be loved
  55. I’m grateful for my body
  56. I accept my past
  57. I am allowed to say ‘no’
  58. It’s safe to ‘yes’
  59. I am a force of nature
  60. I compare myself to myself
  61. Every step forward counts
  62. I’m skilled but teachable
  63. I’m the chosen sperm for a reason!
  64. I have self-compassion for my mistakes
  65. I am thankful I woke up today
  66. I am a helpful person
  67. I am comfortable alone
  68. I am comfortable with others
  69. Each day, I become more myself
  70. I’m comfortable being me
  71. I say my opinions freely
  72. I give myself permission to be myself
  73. I have integrity
  74. I appreciate myself
  75. I am a magnet for everything good
  76. My best is the only perfect
  77. I can only be the best version of me
  78. I am a superwoman
  79. I create opportunity
  80. My efforts count
  81. I am resilient
  82. I deserve great relationships
  83. I respect myself
  84. I choose myself
  85. I am so proud of myself
  86. I deserve the good things
  87. What I don’t know is learnable
  88. I don’t control outcomes, I control my effort
  89. I have faith in my dreams
  90. I create success

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